having kids.

i have wanted to have a family of my own since, well forever. minus the year i decided to be a rebel, claiming i wanted no part of having children. so for twenty two of my twenty three years, i have wanted a family. it stems from having such a large, close family. we thoroughly enjoy being around each other... crazy!

i have the man of my dreams. and i want to have children, in our future. however, my definition of future is the next few years. for my generation, i am not the minority. for my grandma, for my mom... they had already had children at my age. i have the itch. my peers, they don't understand. they are solely focused (mostly) on their careers. waiting until they get into their thirties to focus on a family. honestly, i am happy that they have those goals and ambitions. my goals and ambitions just happen to be a little different. to have a happy and healthy family, those are my goals.

people don't seem to think that is adequate. "enjoy your twenties", "have fun while you're still young", and "enjoy being a newlywed" are phrases i have heard more times than once. here is what i don't get, i celebrate your career! i am happy for your promotion! i am over-the-moon that you get to work in an awesome city! i am working, and happily so! i love my job. but it doesn't complete me, it doesn't fill the family void that i feel. and i want to wait, and enjoy time with just tyler, once we are a married couple.

Enjoying Each Other, Always - Athens, Ohio

but please don't judge our path simply because it might be different than yours. please don't tell me how to live my life, celebrate it... the same as i do for you. treat others as you want to be treated. it is the golden rule, after all.